If the title of this post offends you, there is a high probability that you are trash. Don’t be offended (or be), it’s time for you to actually listen to what women are saying instead of being defensive because your ego cannot handle the truth.
In my opinion, I believe this phrase is used to critique the systematic oppression women face in a patriarchal society but in a colloquial manner. It is literally women saying “hey men, we’re tired of being treated like we are inferior to you simply because we have a vagina”. This is literally what is being said. Women are tired of being treated unfairly based on something we have no control over – our gender. And if you think we are exaggerating, just think about the conversations men have with other men about women. Women are reduced to sexual objects and how you treat us is usually heavily based on how much you want to fuck us. Women are harassed on a daily basis, just walking down the street can be a nightmare for some women. It has literally been so normalised to degrade women that anyone who dares to speak up against women’s degradation is often met with backlash. Just look at how much hate feminists get. How can you literally be against equality for all genders?
To be fair, saying “men are trash” isn’t that far-fetched. The world is run by men. Look at the state of it and ask yourself “are we really doing okay as humans?” The ‘free’ world is literally being run by possibly one of the trashiest men alive: Donald Trump. Let that sink in for a minute.
In the UK, violence against women has increased since 2009 while violence against men has decreased. Do we see a problem here? There has been an increase in cases of domestic violence, sexual violence, rape and even homicide. 97% of female domestic homicide victims were killed by a male suspect. In these cases, these women were killed by men they knew and loved (boyfriends, husbands, fathers etc.). Yes, men die too but the difference is women don’t kill men half as much as men kill women. This isn’t me saying one is better than the other, but statistically the rate at which one happens is higher than the other. Clearly, there is a bigger problem. Women are far more likely to be killed by their spouses but saying “men are trash” is unfair?
I know someone is thinking this: “but not all men do this”, we know. ‘Men’: plural. Not ‘man’: singular. No one is attacking any individual man but as a collective, you pose a threat to our livelihood. The fact that women have to take so much precaution before we leave our homes every single day while you can just wake up, get dressed and leave. We have to make sure we don’t walk down dark alleys. We have to prepare fake names and phone numbers because saying no to a man has cost countless women their lives. We have to remember to never leave our drinks alone out of fear that it will be spiked. We are told to shrink ourselves to let men shine because God forbid we do better than the men in our lives. We are literally told that we exist to please the male gaze. A woman exists for the man’s pleasure and men reap the benefits of it, one way or another. Not all men are active participants of the system but all men benefit from patriarchy but saying “men are trash” is unfair?
When women portray even a fraction of the behavior men portray on a daily basis we are treated even worse. Let’s take it down to something basic. Sex. Sex in a heterosexual relationship takes place between a man and a woman. Both men and women participate in sex yet we still label women “hoes” for having sex. So answer this, if every woman is supposed to be a virgin or have a low body count, who are men having sex with? Secondly, though there should be an equal responsibility to prevent unwanted pregnancies, there really isn’t. Male contraceptives exist but most men refuse to take them. A clinical trial of contraceptives for men was stopped because of side effects. Side effects which women have been dealing with for decades by the way. Women put our bodies through such mental and physical changes in order to avoid an unwanted pregnancy – an unwanted pregnancy that requires a sperm (from the man) and an egg (from the woman). There are guys out there who fuck without condoms because “baby, it feels better raw” but act surprised when the girl gets pregnant. It is true, there are ways the woman can avoid pregnancy after having unprotected sex but these methods aren’t affordable to everyone. It takes two to have sex but why is it only one party paying minimum £25 for the pill? Why is it only one party fretting about the possibilities of becoming a parent? Why is it only one party that is blamed and demeaned for raising a child alone? Last time I checked, it takes two to make a child but saying “men are trash” is unfair?
And if after all this, you still refuse to listen to a human being with a vagina, perhaps this might spark a thought. Men know that men are trash. This is why from a young age, women are told by their fathers to stay away from boys until marriage (my friend’s dad told her not to get a boyfriend till she was married. Confused.com). Men are overprotective of their female family members because they don’t trust the actions of other men. Any girl with an older brother or male cousins can attest to this. My brother and cousins struggle with the fact that I now openly show interest in the opposite sex because of how they have treated girls in the past. The reason a lot of men do not want the responsibility of raising a daughter is because it will force them to look in the mirror and face the truth: men are trash. Not only are men overly protective of the women in their family, they are also incredibly skeptical of other men around their girlfriends – think of the phrase that I’m sure you’ve thought of and/or probably even said to your girl: “It’s not you I don’t trust it’s him.” But “men are trash” is unfair?
If saying men are trash is what it takes to get your attention, we will continue to say it until you have no choice but to listen to us. If after all this, your ego and your feelings are still more important than women’s lives, our safety and our sanity; from the bottom of my heart: fuck you.
However, if reading this has provoked some thought or questions, I implore you to listen to the women in your lives. Just listen.